Get the outcome you want with empathy & controllables

Interview with San Diego State Associate Head Coach, Stacey Nuveman Deniz


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“That elbow rub, that arm on the shoulder, how are you, that connection… that’s the stuff that keeps them coming back for more.”

Today’s guest is one of the most powerful hitters and solid catchers to ever grace our sport. She’s a 3-time Olympic medalist, World Cup Champion, 2-time World Championship winner & 2-time Pan-American Gold medalist. She is one of the most decorated players in the history of our sport, but now she’s focused on developing those in her charge.

She’s coached for the National Pro Fastpitch League and the Junior Women’s National Team. All in addition to her current post, where she’s helped lead the team to 7-straight NCAA tournament bids and improved the team’s offensive stats in 5 major categories.

She’s the Associate Head Coach of the San Diego State University Aztecs…

Please welcome, Stacey Nuveman-Deniz!

Today we discuss…

Her team’s goals for the season

  • Getting back to the basics
  • Redefining success
  • Getting back to the love of the game

Leveling up the intensity of fall ball

  • Challenging themselves against higher level teams
  • Learning how to battle early
  • Being ok with failure now, so they can grow

Dealing with possible obstacles

  • Managing failure when they don’t get the results they want
  • Moving past last season’s struggles
  • Relieving the pressure by focusing on the controllables

Keeping the lines of communication open

  • Individual meetings that are more formal
  • Using informal check-ins to keep a finger on the pulse of the team
  • Giving players the benefit of the doubt when they’re having off days

Her why & support system

  • Rubbing elbows and connecting to her players as people
  • A connected staff that has a lot of fun yet still challenges each other
  • Balancing family life with her also-busy husband

COACHING CHALLENGE | Make time for rubbing elbows

Coaches get into this profession usually because they love the game and are competitive. They stay in the profession because of the connections we make with the players we’re developing. The trouble is, with alllll of the other responsibilities we have to take care of, it’s sometimes hard to make true connections.

That’s why we’ve put together this challenge. If connecting with your players is important to you, you have to somehow create the time and space for taking a step back and taking note of where they are. Some coaches may have the luxury of walking around during drills. Others may have to be more intentional about using the small spaces before practice or between drills to check in on their players.

Either way, if you take the time to make sure all of the other planning is taken care of and make it a point to plan for that step back… Even if it’s just for a couple minutes… You’ll see that even the shortest of conversations and check ins will go a long way for keeping a finger on the pulse of your team and helping each player feel cared for.

We want to hear how you tackled this challenge and how your players responded! Give us a shout out on social media, shoot us a private message, or for our members, share it in the Dream Team Clubhouse!

That’s it for today! We hope you enjoyed the episode!

Mel & Alicia

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Coaches’ influence on athletes | Diamyn Hall [INT]

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